Dating book review
Fears of intimacy can attract you to detached people; Fears of autonomy can attract you to controlling people. Boundaries show what we are and are not; what we agree and disagree with; what we love and hate. When we don’t have clear limits, we can expose ourselves to unhealthy and destructive influences and people.
I) You and your boundaries -Why boundaries in dating? Boundaries protect by letting others know what you will and will not tolerate.- You and only you are responsible for what is inside your boundaries.
He looks at us all as broken people whom he makes new again.""So many people naively think they will meet a kindred spirit who will never have an argument with them...
And they are devastated or lose hope when they find themselves having long-term conflicts...
This one grated on my nerves less than I was expecting – much less.
TAKEAWAY: Learning to have good boundaries in dating is work, and takes some time.
offers illuminating insights for romance that can help you grow in freedom, honesty, and self-control as you pursue a healthy dating relationship that will lead to a healthy marriage. It brings reality to her, so that she can change directions and try new ways of solving her problems.""In a mature relationship, romantic idealization waxes and wanes through the connection at various times.
Again, it paints a good "big picture" of maturity, mostly through the use of case studies and straightforward breakdowns of issues' common roots.
This isn't the most difficult read ever and some of the points are a little "Duh", but overall – interesting points about the need for boundaries and some food for thought when trying to balance emotion and logic.
Also, I'm always sort of "eh" on anything with an overarching faith-based approach to self-help.
Distinguishing between deep character flaws and petty annoyances, taking responsibility for enabling a date's misbehavior while also addressing it, and handling conflict honestly and graciously are all learned skills; we're not born selfless, and navigating a relationship that isn't necessarily (yet?
) a lifelong commitment can be a little hairy sometimes.